What it takes to be a happy parent?

 How rare and difficult is it, to carry a heart at ease, visibly less anxious and anchors the mind in present state ??? Sounds very close “being-happy” or more precisely being called a happy parent..the hunt for recreating a perfect child stretches on and an unfading truth unwinds the reality that our children ought not to fulfill our  projections or expectations the way we presume..

We shower Selfless love  but more than that it is the intimidated energy which creates a toxic environment for a mental well-being. Parents are we pouring acid in these young minds or nurturing a bright upcoming future ?? The answer is yet to be unveiled..

 What makes this simplest thing unreachable ??? Why embracing their differences and growing with them strongly together seems intricating? There is nothing so cringy if they don’t pretend to be one like us.. they are our children, who have their selfhood and just needs our acceptance !!! 

labels on books and cover-pages often look neat and tidy, but children need not be carrying them to reveal who they are !! Mota or patla, unfocused, brainless or bhulakkad , short tempered, hyperactive  phewwww 😐..

Call them by their real names not nicknames ….

So one day, I sat down lame on my couch with eyes glued to the roof of my room searching for answers in silence and started to muster those beautiful thoughts from the past.. how desperately I wanted a child to complete me as a Parent … It would wander around each corner of my house wiggling and giggling, making the earth look topsy and turvy..

Naive as it would look and fearless it would sound, this little munchkin unflaggingly will  leave all remarks of being embraced in the town.... 

It would fill my heart and my soul and convert my house of bricks into my HOME. 

And now as I looke down in present, after that they have become one like us; did I forget what i longed for and how i keep longing for my selfish desires instead of silencing them …

Isn’t there something called LOVE and EMPATHY !! A child needs them not just as a reward but unconditionally, fearlessly, just with pure presence and understanding…Does that feeling makes us one close to be a proud parent??? 

Seeing those bodies flourish, without their wings clipped too soon, we wish them fly higher and higher … But in nowhere before the smile could reach the corners of our lips, its dented somewhere in between and we stand Aghast with broken pieces of their dreams on the ground 🥺.. Did we do something wrong ??? Any negative ?? Perhaps we didn’t realise when we were doing it ( no bad intentions but it happens )…Ohkk now what ?? 

Now don’t just sit like a silly soul, waiting for them to lift their bodies from hell and all by themselves 😖…

they need helll…ppp 

Feel their pain, heal their tarnished minds and piece together their broken bodies to sculpt a CHILD anew …bring them back before they are gone !!!

A wound which can be healed and a soul which can be renewed  even after failures or several attempts … Let us be the hands  who wipes away misery and bring forth goodness !!!

We created them, preserved them from the infection, helped them to take steps , guided them with corrections and finally offered them to the fire without second thought !!!

 I mean not literary burning them to hell … it’s an idiom !!!

Don’t just run for everything you want out of them … they aren’t your ATM machine nor Alexa who cares to give what u demand on urgent basis … Yes they are your treasure who will give you riches more than gold  and a proud arena to stand tall in!!! 

Be a joyful Parent who holds the equation of love and learning of life - embracing both odd and even patterns of your child and accept them as a whole …

Be grateful and practice happy Parenting each day , every day !!! You are a proud parent foreve …